We as kids were all keen on
learning novel things and trying out different activities. Everything was new
for us. Our hearts were filled with inquisitiveness ad zeal to try out something
innovative. We were fervent kids but less intensive, since our minds needed
only fraction of second to get distracted.
Once kids become teenagers, there
is less focus and the curiosity to learn also diminishes. As compared to small
children who do not have control over their mind and emotions, teenagers have a
strong ability to rheostat their cognizance and concentration, if they want to!
But at that age, the mind gets exposed
to a lot of social and environmental distractions that it becomes difficult to hold
our feelings and thought processes.
Today’s enthusiastic teenagers
are always finding different ways to learn important concepts and lessons for a
successful life. Let’s look at few tips which will help them to not only be
good academic apprentices but also positive individuals:
1. Success mantra - There is no unique successful mantra.
There are 2 important
beliefs one must have:-
-Believe in yourself: One must believe
in his/her capabilities. We always say things move as per destiny and gods
wish. But the almighty also helps those who help themselves. Put your best and
things will work in a positive way.
-Never undermine anyone- Though one
becomes successful and powerful, one should not suppress the weak. Remember you
were also feeble someday or can become in future. Fate has its own plans.
Always remain down to earth. Help the needy and support the society. Keep
people around you and with you happy.
2. It is good to make friends, but? - Friends are
one of the best gifts from god. Friendship is for life. They are always there when
we need to share our secrets, have a shoulder to cry on, share our happiness or
even gossip.
It’s imperative
to choose the right type of friends. We were always told to be in the company
of class toppers so that we get the right influence. But that doesn’t means you
will become a topper. Choosing the right friend means having friends of similar
age group, to avoid clashes in the way of thinking. Friends with bad habits
like smoking, drinking or any other form of bad addiction might not make you
addicted but can influence your behavior too.
When you are in
your 30s friends won’t affect your
behavior much because you are matured enough to decide what is right or wrong
for you. But same thing does not apply with teenagers. They easily get influenced as their mind is very
fragile.
Here comes the
role of parent to monitor and be aware of whom your children are friends with.
If you feel something is not just right about a person, talk to your kids.
3. Trust your
parents - They have given us birth, seen us cry, laugh, succeed, fail and have
always supported and been there for us. They are the only ones whom we can
trust. They will never appreciate for the wrongs you do, correct you, criticize
you, praise you, provide shoulders to cry on, will tap you for your success,
and give you all their blessings. They will never share your secrets with anyone;
they will also hide your flaws and help you in amending them. They will be the
ones who will not be envious of your success. So trust them. If they stop you,
they have a reason. Accept their suggestions. And if you don’t want to fall in
trouble, share with them everything you do.
4. Accept
failure - The way one embraces success, one must also learn to accept failure. Rise
& fall is part of our life. One has to be strong willed in either of the
cases. Getting sulked in failure will only lead to misery. And flying high in
success without being humble can lead to self-destruction. A balance has to be
maintained.
Remember after
every downfall, there is victory. It is important to choose the ethical way and
be determined.
Youngsters get
very disheartened when they lose a competition, receive less marks or even when
they do not get the right job. No matter there is a tough competition in this
era of economic & social development. But one has to stay grounded, calm
and patiently move on in life. Everybody gets their share of opportunities,
some early some late.
Here the role
of parent is the most important. When a child succeeds at any point of time,
he/she will declare it to the whole world. Even we as parents, share it with
our family, friends & society. But when a child fails, he has that guilt,
anger & frustration. He/she will not even utter a word about it to anyone.
The only ones whom they will confide in are their parents. So we as parents
have to build that trust and confidence in them, that they can share everything
with us and we will support them. Let them believe that with our support they
can conquer the toughest and achieve the best.
5. Virtual world
-Earlier the virtual world was just a small part of our lives and restricted to
only work. But now it has become our life. Whether it is an adult, teenager or
child everyone is on the internet. The
technology revolution has made our lives easier and better. But we have lost
touch with our real world. Status updates, stylish clicks, happening statements
and easy chats have drawn us apart, from our original personality.
Children and youngsters have to
understand that what they see on the social media pages about their friends
& family or even celebrities might not be real. Some who cannot afford a
lavish lifestyle start comparing themselves with their friends who keep on
updating images of them enjoying and having fun at an early age. The feeling of
insecurity creeps in. One also starts
desiring to do the same. Rather than living 2 different lives, one has to
understand that right now it is more important to focus on your studies and
career rather than getting trapped into this simulated world.
Life is neither too short that one
has no second chance to prove and neither too long that we have a laid back
attitude. Focus and determination can
lead one to their dream path. Patience and endeavor will support your goal.
